HSP

“Might you be highly sensitive and not know it?”

What does it mean to be a Highly Sensitive Person?

Being Highly Sensitive equates to having a highly developed nervous system, and can show in several ways.

Scientifically known as Sensory Processing Sensitivity (SPS), High Sensitivity is present in approximately 20% of the population as a whole, that’s every fifth child or adult, across the globe. It’s also present in over 100 species of animals.

Dr Elaine N. Aron, PhD is credited with first using the term “highly sensitive” when starting her research in 1991, though Carl Jung, as far back as 1913, observed “particularly sensitive people” and their strengths and weaknesses. Dr Aron and went on to publish her book “The Highly Sensitive Person” in 1997 and was instrumental in formulating the initial knowledge we have about High Sensitivity, which she and others have subsequently developed further.

Dr Aron’s acronym best sums up the key aspects of High Sensitivity, present in a Highly Sensitive Person:

DOES stands for Depth of Processing, Overarousability, Emotional Intensity, and Sensory Sensitivity (Aron, 2010).

Depth of Processing is about deep thoughts and feelings, or contemplation, both of oneself and the world in general. You would take your time over reflection; it could be about you, your family, your career, animal welfare, or war being waged. You are likely to have a highly artistic and creative side, which is mated with conscientiousness (offset against the awareness of failure and what it could bring).

Overarousability can manifest in many ways and will be a result of too much stimulation for you. This can take many forms from alcohol, caffeine and other drug intakes, glaring or fluorescent lights, needing total darkness to fall asleep, noise, strong smells, “itchy” fabric, a crowded area, and the pressure of an exam or a tight work deadline. You may modify your behaviour to avoid these common stimuli and seek more time alone to compensate. Overarousability is highly individual and no two HSPs are alike. 

Empathy and Emotional responsiveness; you will have a high level of empathy, possibly from a relatively early age, coupled with intuition and the ability to be aware of others’ emotions. This high level of empathy may contribute significantly to draining your energy, and HSPs also have a wider possible range of emotional responses; some may present at the same time such as sadness/joy, anger/elation, or anxiety/anticipation. As a result, self-care is paramount for HSPs for effective functioning throughout life. Emotional Intensity will show in deeper, stronger, longer emotions; praise and criticism will affect you more. You are likely to be disinterested in violent films and TV programmes.

Sensory Sensitivity there is some overlap with some aspects of overarousability; would you notice I’ve changed a picture in my therapy room from one wall to another, for example? Again, this aspect is highly individual.

So how do you check if you are a Highly Sensitive Person?

The easiest way is to take a simple test such as on Dr. Aron’s website:

highly sensitive person test (adult)

And to check if your child may be highly sensitive:

highly sensitive test (child)

Sensitivity Research also offers tests for adults and children.

I am a Highly Sensitive Person and dad to a highly sensitive child. I continue to explore the world of the HSP and have had many hours of personal therapy.

Discovering the trait was a real light bulb moment for me, an enlightenment that changed my life.

I have continued to further my knowledge in this subject: in June 2018, I went to an international gathering attended by people from all over the world, which included a talk by Dr Elaine Aron via Zoom on the latest research. Following attending a course at the NCHS in Hampshire, I’ve been an HSP mentor since Oct 18.

It’s normal to be Highly Sensitive. 

It’s simply a trait just like other aspects that you have been born with.

You don’t need treatment and you won’t find a “cure”.

You may need help with high sensitivity on a personal level or as a parent, especially in a culture where the HSP can still be incorrectly labelled as shy, aloof, or different. And a Highly Sensitive Child requires a different parenting approach to other children, more so for boys, where the message they often can get is to “toughen up”.

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High Sensation Seeking

This is also an innate trait, so present from birth, and may or may not be coupled with high sensitivity (either as an introvert or extravert). An internal conflict will be present in HSPs who are also HSSs (Sensitive Sensation Seekers): described by Dr Aron as: “one foot is on the brake, the other on the gas”. There are four main aspects, though you don’t need to be “high” in all of them: Thrill and Adventure seekers; Experience & Novelty seeking; Disinhibition – outside societal norms; Boredom susceptibility.

To check on high sensation seeking, try the test below:

High Sensation Seeking test

I am a Highly Sensitive Person and High Sensation Seeker as well as a dad to a highly sensitive, high sensation seeking child. I continue to explore the world of the HSP and have had many hours of personal therapy.

Do please contact me – I am always happy to hear from you and to help you or refer you on as appropriate.

Fees :

Face-to-face London 50 minutes £80;

Face-to-face Stroud 60 minutes £50;

Online / Telephone 60 minutes £50;

Fees to be paid in advance by bank transfer.

I firmly believe that counselling should be accessible to all.

I offer some concessionary places for those on lower-income; please enquire for availability and cost.

Mentoring

In addition to counselling, I offer to mentor highly sensitive adults and parents of highly sensitive children.

As a highly sensitive man and dad to a highly sensitive son, I wish to pass on some of what I’ve learned, if of benefit to others.

The overall aim is to improve your performance, promote your growth, and may involve my sharing information, occasionally teaching, and using counselling skills; a mix of nurture and encouragement.

I started mentoring a while back when some parents with young children needed to be supported on their journey with Highly Sensitive Children. And I am now fortunate to work with HSPs and parents of HSCs around the world offering online mentoring sessions over Zoom (or similar) weekly to discuss how to support you.

Are you a parent of a Highly Sensitive Child?

Are you feeling overwhelmed at all the tasks you have to do and all the things you have to juggle as a parent of an HSC?

Are you thinking of deepening your knowledge of the trait to understand better your child and create a harmonic parenting environment?

Are you interested in helping your child to thrive and you to deal better with challenging times?

I can help you to develop emotional strength and knowledge to face the richness and complexity of parenting an HS child.

You can book a series of sessions with me; I will be your mentor using my counselling skills and expertise in high sensitivity to create a weekly structure to support your journey.


Mentoring sessions for parents of highly sensitive children focus on: 

  • Rhythm
  • Food and energy
  • Bedtime & sleep routine
  • Nursery & schooling, emotional and social skills
  • Playdates and managing overwhelming situations, discipline
  • Environment and self-confidence
  • Toys/Books/craft/child’s environment
  • TV & digital media exposure
  • Creating the right environment for a calm life


Mentoring for Highly Sensitive Persons

Mentoring sessions for HSPs focus on:

  • Strengthening your acceptance of being highly sensitive
  • Exploring HSP strengths and challenges
  • Promoting an increase in your emotional regulation when over-aroused or receiving negative feedback or outright criticism
  • Educating in HSP self-care and lifestyle choices, as required
  • Checking and working on self-compassion, as necessary
  • Working on low self-esteem, as required
  • Looking at boundary setting and saying “no”


Mentoring groups for schools

I am available to run small mentoring groups for teachers and educational staff for schools and organisations. Please contact me to discuss your requirements. The mentoring packages can also be offered in person. Please call me to discuss location and availability. I currently work in London and Gloucestershire.

If you have any questions or if you would like to make an appointment, please contact me.

Online Therapy via Zoom, Whereby, Jitsi
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Face-to-face Therapy London & Stroud  


Tel: 07421 046591 +44 7421 046591
Email                 davidwilsoncounselling@tutanota.com

Highly Sensitive Person

Albanian Shqip shumë i ndjeshëm

Basque Euskara Oso pertsona sentikorra

Belorussian Беларус чалавек вельмі адчувальны

Bosnian Bosanski Vrlo osjetljiva osoba

Bulgarian Български     Много чувствителен човек

Catalan Català Persona altament sensible

Croatian Hrvatski Vrlo osjetljiva osoba

Czech Čeština Vysoce citlivá osoba

Danish Dansk     Højt følsomme person

Dutch Nederlands Hoog Sensitief Persoon

Estonian Eesti Väga tundlik isik

Finnish Suomi     Erittäin herkkä henkilö

French Français Une personne très sensible

German Deutsch     Hochsensible Person

Greek Έλληνα     Πολύ ευαίσθητο άτομο

Hebrew עברית אדם רגיש מאוד

Hungarian Magyar Nagyon érzékeny személy

Icelandic Íslenska Mjög viđkvaem manneskja

Italian Italiano persona molto sensibile

Japanese日本人       非常に敏感な人

Latvian Latviešu Ļoti jūtīga persona

Luxembourgish Lëtzebuergesch     Héich Sensibel Persoun

Lithuanian Lietuviška Labai jautrus žmogus

Macedonian Македонски   Многу чувствителен човек

Maltese Persuna sensittiva ħafna

Norwegian Norsk Veldig følsom person

Polish Polski Wysoko wrażliwa osoba

Portugese Português Pessoa altamente sensível

Romanian Română Persoană foarte sensibilă

Russian Русский         очень чувствительный человек

Serbian Српски     веома осетљива особа

Slovak slovenský Vysoko citlivý človek

Slovenian Slovenščina Zelo občutljiva oseba

Spanish Español Persona altamente sensible

Swedish Svenska Högt känslig person

Turkish Türkçe     çok hassas biri

Ukrainian Українська високочутлива людина

Welsh Cymraeg Person hynod sensitif

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